Someone asked me the other day who my dream band would be. I have 2 versions and they involve people I know, not unattainable "dream" musicians. I choose to live in reality.
Vocals - Sid Goldsmith (Upside)
Bass - Freddy Herrera (The Exies)
Drums - Jason West (Wednesday 13)
Guitar - Matthew Wright (The Feds)
Guitar - Me
Vocals - Matt Slider (The Feds)
Bass - Zack Busby (Burden Brothers)
Drums - Billy Baker (Valentine Saloon)
Guitar - Jason Jones (The Feds)
Guitar - Me
There ya go.
Recently I have realized that my brutal honesty may rub some people the wrong way and even offends some people. There is a reason why I speak my mind. As a child I was the small kid. I always felt it was best to keep my mouth shut and not express myself in fear of being bullied or beat up. As I grew up, I no longer was the small guy and now I say what I think. Good or bad. I would rather people know where I stand than be a fake.
Sometimes my willingness to speak my mind and thick skin have been used for the gain of others and my detriment. I can think of many situations where this has happened but these are just a few of the gems…
All of those have really happened and I am just fine doing the dirty work. It's the next day when the fired person speaks to another band member or the drunk guy talks to the person throwing the party. I get thrown under the bus as if it was all my doing. Like I'm the boss and made the final decision. This way everyone else walks away unscathed and I am the a**hole. I guess someone has to be the bad guy. Usually it's me.
Trust me I don't lose sleep over this at all. I have pretty thick skin. I've realized it is what it is. If others choose to be sheep and believe everything they are told then so be it. I also know that for each person that doesn't like me there are just as many that do. Plus they like me for the same reason the others don't. They like knowing where they stand and prefer a little honesty in their life. I'd rather have 3 honest, open friends than 10 that tell you what you want to hear and then shit on you when you walk away. I will continue to be brutally honest. If you don't like it, just move along.
The lesson here is: If you are ever in a situation, in life, that involves more than 2 parties, you owe it to yourself to talk to everyone involved. Don't shoot the messenger and do not assume you know the whole picture from getting just one side of the story. You may actually find the truth if you look for it.
and if you don't know who he is, shame on you.